Those Pesky Selfies
How to Take Better Selfies (At Any Age)
Because lighting > filter, and confidence beats contour.
Let’s get one thing straight: you don’t have to be 23 or full of filler to take a stunning selfie. You just need good light, the right angles, and a vibe that says “I know exactly who I am.”
Whether you're 35, 50, or fabulous at any age, this is your cheat sheet to looking like the most radiant version of yourself, with nothing but your phone and a little Lust Darling energy.
1. Find the Light—Then Face It
The #1 rule? Face the light. Always.
Stand near a window or outside in soft natural light (think sunrise, sunset, or overcast days). You want glow, not shadows. Avoid overhead lighting at all costs—it’s nobody’s friend.
💡 Pro tip: If you're indoors, turn your body toward the window and hold your phone just above eye level. That’s your sweet spot.
2. Angles Are Everything
The front-facing camera can be brutal if you don’t tilt it just right. The trick?
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Hold your phone slightly above your eyeline
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Angle it down just a bit
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Push your chin slightly forward
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Relax your mouth or do a soft half-smile—not a full “cheese” unless you mean it
💡 For mirror selfies: keep your phone low enough to see your outfit, but tilt your head toward the light to catch that cheekbone.
3. Use Your Body, Not Just Your Face
Don’t just stare at the screen, pose. Shift your weight. Turn one shoulder forward. Cross your ankles. Raise your arm. Play.
A good selfie is a little bit camera and a whole lot posture.
💡 Want to look longer and leaner? Shoot from a lower angle, then crop upward. It’s an instant leg-stretcher.
4. Skip the Filter. Use Editing Instead.
Heavy filters can blur away the very things that make your face interesting—laugh lines, freckles, texture. Instead, try light edits:
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Increase brightness
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Adjust warmth to your skin tone
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Add a tiny bump of sharpness or structure
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Skip the smoothing, trust your glow
5. Take 30. Post One. That’s Normal.
If you’re taking 5 photos and getting discouraged—keep going. Most great selfies come after a warm-up.
Take 20. Take 40. Change angles. Try lipstick. Try none. Laugh in the middle and see what happens. You’re not being vain. You’re practicing your own reflection.
💡 Pro tip: The best selfies happen the moment you stop trying so hard.
Final Thought?
You don’t need permission to love how you look.
You just need a little light, a little tilt, and a mood.
Lust Darling final trick? Take a video of yourself and then screenshot a moment you look your most gorgeous.